SPOT THE SIGNS

Abuse in a relationship can happen to anyone.
It's never ok.
It can destroy your self-confidence, have a negative impact on your
health and wellbeing and leave you feeling isolated and lonely.

a partner may try to pressure you into having sex by saying "if you loved me you would"
They may call you names or threaten to spread rumours about you
They might try to control you by checking your phone
They may try to force you to do things by hitting you
They might get angry when you want to spend time with your friends

Relationship Checklist

In a healthy relationship both partners treat each other with respect. Answer the following questions honestly to work out if your partner treats you with the respect you deserve. Your partner:	Yes	No
Is willing to compromise
Lets you feel comfortable being yourself
Is able to admit to being wrong
Is not jealous or possessive
Does not try to control what you wear, where you go or what you do
Does not physically hurt you
Does not emotionally hurt you (by calling you names, threatening you, making you feel bad)
Tries to resolve arguments and conflict by talking honestly
Enables you to feel safe being with them
Respects your feelings, your opinions and your friends
Accepts you saying no to things you don't want to do (like sex)
Accepts you changing your mind
Respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship

When someone loves you, you feel safe, respected and free to be yourself. You shouldn't be made to feel scared, intimidated or controlled.

If you have answered 'no' to any of these questions, you could be in an abusive relationship and may want to speak to someone.