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If you’re splitting up, you will want to ensure that you protect your children from being upset and disturbed by the changes that will happen. Find out how best to approach the subject with them and get an overview of the arrangements you need to make with your ex-partner.
Telling your children that you are getting divorced or separating can be difficult. It helps to prepare what you are going to say and think about how you will deal with their reaction. You can get advice online to help you.
It’s always better if you can make arrangements for your children between you, without going to court. A good way to do this is to put together a Parenting Plan.
A Parenting Plan will help you agree on day-to-day arrangements like:
You can download a step-by-step guide to putting together a Parenting Plan.
The vast majority of people manage to reach an agreement between themselves. But if you really can’t agree with your ex-partner about some of the arrangements, you can use a family mediator – an independent person trained to help.
Going to court to finalise arrangements over children can be very stressful for everyone – including the children.
The court will always put the needs of the child or children first. But bear in mind that if you can’t agree at court a judge will have the final say - not you or your ex-partner.
So you should try and resolve things without going to court if it’s at all possible.